How Great Conversations Create Motivated Sellers

When a motivated seller picks up your call, they’re not hoping to be sold, they’re hoping to be heard.

But too many investors and agents treat that first conversation like a job interview:

• Rapid-fire questions

• Zero context

• No emotional connection

You might get the info you need. But you won’t get the deal.

This guide shows you how to approach your first seller call like a consultative, human conversation, one that builds trust, surfaces real motivation, and lays the groundwork for a successful close (even if it doesn’t happen right away).

It’s Not a Qualification Call, It’s a Connection Call

Yes, you need to know the facts: timeline, condition, motivation, price expectations.

But sellers won’t give you the truth unless they trust you.

So your first call isn’t about proving you're the best buyer. It’s about proving you're the least risky conversation they’ve had all week.

Step 1: Break the Pattern (First 20 Seconds)

Most sellers expect you to sound like a pushy telemarketer.

That’s why your opening line matters more than anything you say later.

Wrong approach:

"Hi, I'm an investor looking to make an offer on your house—do you have a minute?"

Better:

"Hey [Name], I know this is probably out of the blue, but I wanted to ask about the property on [Street]. Did I catch you at an okay time?"

This pattern-breaker:

• Feels casual and non-threatening

• Signals that you’re checking in, not charging ahead

• Invites permission, not resistance

Step 2: Set Expectations (Without Sounding Salesy)

Let them know this isn’t a high-pressure call.

Say something like:

"I’m not calling with some cheesy offer or anything like that. I just saw the place and figured I’d check in, see if it’s something you’ve been thinking about selling, or if the timing’s not right."

Now you’ve given them:

• An out (which lowers resistance)

• A window to share what’s really going on

Step 3: Ask This One Question to Open the Floodgates

Most sellers won’t tell you the real reason they're selling until they feel safe.

Here’s a magic opener:

“What’s got you even thinking about selling right now?”

This gives them full freedom:

• To talk about frustration (with tenants, taxes, repairs)

• To bring up emotional reasons (divorce, job loss, inherited property)

• To be real, not rehearsed

Now you're having a conversation, not a checklist interrogation.

Step 4: Use the 70/30 Rule (You Talk Less)

Your job now? Listen 70% of the time. Talk 30%.

As they share, use prompts like:

• “What’s that been like?”

• “How long’s that been going on?”

• “What are you hoping will change once you sell?”

This creates space for emotion to surface, and motivation to rise.

Step 5: Mirror Their Energy (and Stay Human)

If they’re frustrated, don’t over-hype.
If they’re emotional, don’t pivot to price.
If they’re skeptical, don’t push the contract.

Instead, mirror their tone and stay calm.

Examples:

• If they’re upset about repairs: “Yeah, that stuff wears people down. Have you been dealing with that a long time?”
  
  
  

• If they say they’re not sure what they want yet: “Totally get that. No pressure from me. I can just help you understand your options.”

You’re not there to sell, you’re there to guide.

Step 6: Give Them a Soft Exit (and a Next Step)

At the end, don’t close too hard, especially if the conversation is warm but not urgent.

Say:

“Thanks for sharing all that. Based on everything you said, I can sketch out a couple of options that might fit, no pressure. If you want, I’ll text or email something later today and we can pick it back up when you’re ready.”

This gives them:

• Control

• Clarity

• Confidence that you're different

And it sets you up for an easier follow-up later.

Bonus: What Not to Do on a First Seller Call

• Don’t ask for a price too early

• Don’t start with your pitch

• Don’t bulldoze objections

• Don’t act like every seller wants cash fast

• Don’t forget they’re human

What You Should Listen to 

Most sellers won’t tell you exactly what’s going on. But if you listen closely, you’ll hear it anyway.

That’s because motivated sellers often speak in signals, not sentences.

Here’s how to spot the motivation beneath the surface — so you can respond with relevance and care.

Clue #1: Vague language about “exploring options”

If a seller says:

“We’re just seeing what it’s worth”
“I’m not in a rush, but open to ideas”
“We’re figuring things out right now”

They’re signaling:

• They don’t have a clear plan

• They might be overwhelmed

• They need someone who won’t pressure them

What to say:

“Totally fair. Do you mind if I ask — if the right situation came up, what would it need to look like for you to feel good moving forward?”

Clue #2: Complaints about the property or tenants

If you hear:

“It’s been vacant for months”
“Tenants aren’t paying”
“It’s just more trouble than it’s worth”

They’re not just venting — they’re telling you:

• “I’m tired”

• “I want relief”

• “If you can solve this, I’ll listen”

What to say:

“That sounds exhausting. Do you feel like you’re ready to be done with it — or just testing the waters right now?”

Clue #3: Emotional stories about life changes

If they bring up:

• Divorce

• Inheritance

• Job loss

• Illness

• Death in the family

Pause. Breathe. Don’t push the process. Just listen.

These situations signal:

• High emotional stakes

• Internal pressure to “do something”

• Uncertainty about how to move forward

What to say:

“I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. If it helps, I can walk you through a few options when you're ready — just to make things a little easier to think through.”

The better you listen between the lines, the more trust you’ll earn — and the more likely they are to call you back when it matters.

A Consultative Call Builds a Deal-Ready Relationship

The goal of your first call isn’t to get the deal signed on the spot. It’s to:

• Earn trust

• Surface truth

• Set the tone for every call that comes next

When you lead with empathy and curiosity, not a script and a stopwatch, sellers stay open longer. And that’s what gives you the edge.

Want help training your team to make better calls? Goliath Data's call recordings, scoring, and motivation tracking tools can show you exactly what works, and what doesn't, so you can scale conversations that close.